Ive been having a hard time understanding Tyler lately. He is in this 3 year old stage that has no rhyme or reason to it. I have been finding myself losing my Patience with him everyday and it brakes my heart. I wish i could understand what to do. I feel like everything Ive taught him has been kicked to the curb. I cant find the proper "Time Out Method" I can't get him to stop hitting his brother Trevor and me. He spits and throws things at me all day. He wont let me talk on the phone or even have company over. I find myself crying to my Heavenly Father for answers on how to make this right. I know he can be a good kid cause I see it out in public. He is good at church, swimming lessons, the store, ect. But the minute we get home its like my sweet child changes into this angry sad child. What is going on.
Today I had an light bulb moment. The babies were down for nap and I sat tyler on my lap and had a heart to heart talk with him. I asked him why he is so angry, what can Mommy do to help him be happier. His reply was a major wake up call. He said " I want you to hold me more, I like hugs, I want you to be my friend, I want you to play cars with me, I want to cuddle, I want to tell jokes together" Okay is it fair that im in tears writing this tonight.
The first thing I did was rush over to my computer and turn it off. I swore I wouldnt turn it back on till the kids went to bed. I ran back over to Tyler and we cuddled for about an hour on the couch. I sang songs to him and we laughed. I then invited him to a race car match on his bed. With a big smile he said " you wanna race to my room" I ran down the hall tickling his sides as we both jumped on the bed in great joy and laughter. At that moment I realized Nothing in this world matters than my kids happiness. Ive learned that the adversary works on us Stay At Home Moms too. He wants us to fill our days with other priorities than playing with your kids. The house, the computer, the phone can all wait. A lesson well learned. By the way Tyler won the race with his cars. I love this picture cause its so nice to welcome back my sweet, happy child in the home again. There is a quote I love " There is only one thing worth spending on your children, and thats TIME" Isn't it funny that just as you teach your kids they do the same for you. This was a great day and I am grateful for the lesson I learned.
Wednesday, July 23, 2008
Tyler's Two Cents
Posted by Keri at 9:55 PM
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Man out of the mouths of babe's, huh?!! I think we mom's go through the same house hold phases. Eli and Chey have been fighting like crazy lately, and I have been wracking my brain as to what to do because they seem so unhappy and out of control. I look back at when I lived with my parents when Jess was out here and they were so calm and mild tempered (for the most part - they were still kids), but now they are out of control again. Well, like Ty said, it just comes down to more time. I know for myself the more stress I am under the more I find myself doing activities like cleaning or reading or blogging, etc. just to get away from the stress reality. The more I get away, the more the kids just get put on the back burner. They have their physical needs met, but emotionally they just want attention so they do anything to get it, even if it is negative attention. Yet, it is a two edge sword because while my house becomes emacult, the less I do with the kids and the more they fight, which doesn't allow me to truly relax. I am grateful Ty put into words what I have felt needs to be done in my own home. Thanks for your sweet conviction to say what needs to be said even though it kills your heart because it is what I am going through right now. I know that is what needs to happen her in the Logan home too. Thanks Keri, but more importantly thanks Ty for voicing what Eli and Chey wouldn't!! Man to bad we didn't have money to hire a maid because then my house could be emaculet and I could have all the time in the world for the kids!! Again, Thanks!!
That is amazing and it really hit me when you said that it is so true we just need to enjoy our kids and the time that we have with them we do need to play with them and cuddle them because someday very soon they won't want us to. We need to take time everyday to just enjoy our kids and see what a blessing they are to us. Thank you for sharing that sweet moment with us so I could learn too.
ALL mom's get into a rut and "forget" about one on one time with their kids. In fact, after I read your post, I played cards with Jake. I plan on that again today.
Keri I'm crying reading your post! That is so great that he told you what was the matter and that you are able to fix it! I too struggle with turning off the computer during the day. i make a goal not to have it on when kai is up, but you forget after a while, ya know. i guess everyone needs a wake up call once in a while!
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